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Question:  Hi, So lately I have had a lot of anxiety towards what college I want to attend. so far I have made a list of the colleges I like, the colleges I don't like, and the colleges that fit under maybe. I really like this one college but they don't have the program I want to go into. The only other colleges besides that one are in my maybe list. There is this one college that my cousin goes to and she loves it but I'm not sure, I know a lot of people from my town thats going there. I love my friends and all but after I graduate I kind of want to take my separate path and meet new people ya know.  My friends are always asking me what college are you thinking about? and one time I was like a "well I really like this one college" and the next thing I know is they're telling me thats the college they're going to. why does picking a school have to be so stressful its such a big decision I'm not sure if I'm going to make the right one... Then there is a huge factor that deals with college, money. I already know I'm going to be poor once I get to college and am going to have tons of loans but whatevs I want the college experience so I can deal with it. Sorry I wrote so much I've just been thinking a lot lately and my parents are no help they have no clue they never went to college. Another thing I've been thinking about is my friends.. I kind of have two groups of friends: the friends I hang out with every day and the friends I play basketball with everyday. I haven't really talked with the friends I hang out with since school got out and I have been playing basketball like everyday and I'm getting really close with my team, it's like we're a family. the only thing is, is that my team and my friends that I hang out with don't hang out and a lot of times I feel I like I have to choose between friends and I'm stuck. I really love my team and I just don't know if hanging out with my team all the time is making me distant with my other friends. I don't know what to do!!!! Since school got out I have been doing a lot of thinking.... thanks for listening TC teens

Answer:  Being stressed is not such a bad thing.  It means you are really thinking about your future, which is a very good thing.  Some suggestions made from The Team, was that you send out a couple applications to each of the likes and maybes.  See what responses you get back.  Because you may choose a college and in the long run, you may not even be accepted.  You're other topic, money... if you have to get loans, scholarships and grants.  You have to work hard to get stuff like this, but it's so worth it.  Also, if you have to, go to community college.  I know a lot of kids never want to because they don't like to be stuck in their hometown, but it isn't so bad.  Especially now that you are becoming an adult, you will be able to go out and do things that you couldn't in highschool, and in the long run, you will save sooo much money and still get the same education. 
     When you decide to hang out with friends, alternate between them.  Be a Libra and keep balance in your life.  If you want, invite both groups over for a bonfire, or go to the beach.  Do something that may allow your two groups to bond and get to know each other.  This may make it easier trying to hang out with them because they will start to know each other and want to hang out all together.

Question:  Hi TC Teens! Im having trouble, I babysit A LOT!  The kids always seem to get bored and I am running out of fun and creative ideas to keep them busy and active during the summer months. Do you have any ideas that are going to help them to have fun, get active, and enjoy their summer?

Answer:  Here on The Team, we ourselves do a ton of babysitting ourselves.  For our own siblings or for a neighbor it is pretty much our jobs during the summer.  So we will list all the things we do with the kids to keep them active and happy throughout the long, hot summer days.

• Painting (Use brushes, fingers, marbles, leaves, etc…)
• Walks
• Sprinkler and/ or water balloons
• Finger knitting   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t3LKAlDz9ig
• Baking (Make homemade ice cream, cupcakes and let them decorate the cake!)
• Plan a scavenger hunt (Go inside and outside and make a sweet prize(s))

These are some of our suggestions.  Hope you like and enjoy your summer!



Question:  Hey, so I got this friend and she is always talking about herself and she is really starting to annoy me. She is really dramatic and controlling and its starting to bother me, I have never met a person that is this dramatic and self centered. I don't know how to handle it anymore and I still want to be friends with this person but they are really starting to annoy me and some of my other friends. What should I do? Help me please!! >,<

Answer:  Usually I find that if a friend starts acting like this they don’t even realize that they are doing it.  So what we suggest is without being so brutal, show them what they are doing wrong.  Pull that person aside from everyone else, like ask to go hang out at the park where not a lot of people will be around, and then break it off to her.  Tell her how you feel and give her an example or two of things she has done to hurt you or your friends.

              If you don’t feel like approaching her first then try talking to her in short sentences when she gets on the topic of herself.  She will pick up on it because she is no longer getting as much attention and assume something is on your mind.  Hopefully she isn’t too full of herself and will take a minute or two to ask you what’s up and then you can break it to her.  If you do either of these make sure to be nice about it and never do it in front of a huge crowd.  It will only put them in a more embarrassing position and she may become a little mean if pressured. 

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